This webpage is for parent, co- parents and young people who might be experiencing distress in their relationship and want to reduce arguments in the household for the sake of their child’s wellbeing.
Healthy Relationships – Where to get help?
Arguments are part of every healthy relationship but when they become frequent, intense and poorly resolved they have a negative impact on you and your family. A relationship in distress can place children at risk of mental health and behavioural issues and they may have problems with school and learning.
Evidence has shown that when parents, co-parents and carers communicate well and manage stress together, children do better.
There are two free ways you can access support for you and your family:
There are three digital resources available for different relationships:
The poster resources for you to download and share:
Click here to access the DIGITAL resources detailed above
You can use these resources on a mobile, tablet or laptop. When prompted, please select Northumberland from the Northern England map and then create yourself an account as per the instructions given. Will take 30 mins to 45 mins to complete.
To talk to someone (If you are self refering please ignore referrer details or put X in the box)
Click the button below to sign-up and fill in a quick online request form, it takes a few minutes of your time to complete. Please select which course you need and someone will contact you
Click here to sign up
Healthy Relationships Screening Tool and Guidance:
Use this to have conversations about the quality of your relationship.
When we argue with our partner or ex-partner, we can get caught up in the heat of the moment. At times like these, it’s difficult to find a way forward. See it Differently - This resource helps you see things differently, and do things differently.
In October and November 2019, we asked parents in Northumberland what they think a healthy relationship looks like. This is what they said:
We have also developed a Parental Relationship Scale with these parents. This can help you to see the differences between parental conflict and domestic abuse.
Please click here to view our Northumberland Parental Relationship Scale
The Early Intervention Foundation reports that the impact of parental conflict on children can have both immediate and long-term effects, including:
Call 999 if you, or someone you know is in immediate danger.
For 11–25 year olds Kooth is a free, confidential and safe way to receive online counselling, advice and emotional well-being support.
Childline - Children and young people under 19 can call 0800 1111 for free support.
Young Minds Parents Helpline - Call 0808 802 5544 for free Mon-Fri from 9.30am to 4pm.
You can contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline 24/7 by calling 0808 200 0247. They can offer advice and guidance and find refuge if necessary.
Families want their children to have happy and healthy childhoods but sometimes they need more support to do this. We all have a duty to protect children and this section will help you to access support if you are concerned that a child or young person is at risk of harm.
If this is the case, you can ask them to help you through the process and direct them to this webpage for further guidance. You’ll need to be in contact with that person throughout the programme, although the level of involvement you have with them will vary.
If you aren’t working with anybody at the moment, you can make a self-referral by accessing the Early Help Support Request.
Please click here to make a self-referral
PLEASE NOTE: For this programme, both parents/carers, whether together or separated, need to be willing to take part in order for the programme to go ahead. As one grandparent said: 'it needs two people who are committed to making a change.'
Remember, one or both parents can complete the free online resources if you would prefer this option.
This service is suitable for:
If you are being referred onto a programme, the professional you are working with will ask you both to complete a Relationship Scales Questionnaire. This will ask you to think about your relationship.
No, the programmes are free and will be held near where you live, or in your own home (if appropriate). There is also help with travel costs and childcare if necessary.
All of the programmes available will allow both of you to discuss your feelings and emotions about any conflict in a non-confrontational way. This will help you to develop communication strategies and explore the impact on yourselves and your children.
There are four programmes available, including:
We will use the information you give us to decide the best way in which to support you, and help you to address your relationship difficulties.
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